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Let the "Light Bulb" go off in your mind about a better version of you. I hope you become that version here...or at least get an introduction... Feel free to leave a comment and share the posts with friends and family! You get an imaginary "High Five" every time you do!

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If we understand how we got to the unfavorable destination we are in, then we can trace our steps back. If we know how we got to the favorable destination we are in, then we can decipher how to stay there or go even higher. As a certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner and Motivational Coach, I am always looking to helping people answer tough questions about relationships, leadership, communication, personal growth, motivation, and faith. You’re in for a good thing. I hope that you meet that better version of yourself here.

Stop Praying For a Good Spouse. For Real. Here’s Why

Cork Proposal
Stop it.
Halt the prayers for a sec.
You’re probably thinking “Tooobbbiii…where in the world could this be going?”
Don’t worry…keep reading and I’ll tell you why you should stop praying…at least in the way you are doing it and in the state you are in. (Plus there is something at the end you have to see)

Now…Let’s have a SERIOUS conversation.
This is not going to be very comfortable..but I do it in love…so that the veil over your eyes will be lifted.
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Most People May Not Find True Love…Here’s Why

Fireplace feet
Let’s get something straight. I want you to find true love. I hope you do. In fact, God wants you to find true love.
It’s important. It is a noble thing to desire and look for. But…even though many want it, most people won’t find it.
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What is the Minimum Connection You Should Feel Before Starting or Continuing a Relationship?

Dinner date illustration
So there you are…you are being approached by someone or you are approaching someone and you are asking yourself the ever-common question “What minimum connection must I feel with this person to be comfortable moving forward?”

This may sound like a simple question but some of the stories I have heard lately are just proof that matters of the heart can be complicated and things that should be plain to see could be very elusive. Read more

Is Your Relationship or Marriage Demanding You to Compromise Yourself or to Grow?

Woman Thinking on Laptop
Nobody wants to totally lose themselves in relationships. In fact, we fight tooth and nail in relationships to retain the versions of ourselves we are used to so we say or hear things like:

I want someone to love me the way I am
I don’t want to lose myself in the relationship or marriage
I know this person loves me because they never try to change me

It’s a blurry line this one. The line between “Compromising Yourself” and Growth. They are like twins only that we believe that one of them has a negative connotation (has horns) and that the other one has a positive one (has halos).
Which is which and how do you tell?
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The Prenup Conversation We Don’t Want to Have (Especially in Church)

Young Couple Thinking
The prenup conversation is just one of those conversations that are so unromantic for most people that the very mention of it is bound to make both people seriously uncomfortable and will even cause many to feel that there is a red flag in the relationship.

And since the church doesn’t believe or advocate divorce, by default, the church doesn’t believe in or promote prenuptial agreements. That is totally understandable.

Over the past several months, I have been asked several times about it by students in my course, readers of my blog and other Christian singles who (even though they agree that they don’t want to end up in divorce) still have questions about prenups and at least want to have a conversation around it to help them be better grounded on the matter.and I have spent the past few weeks trying to understand it so I can present an objective perspective for the Christian single who wants to have a bit more clarity about it. Read more

6 CRITICAL Lessons We MUST Learn from the Last Generation of Believers… if We Really Want To Please God in This Generation

Young AdultsIf there is one sentiment that Young Adult Believers (all over the world) feel about the “church”, it’s that they feel a bit frustrated by the way the previous generation does things…relates with people….preaches…interprets Christ, runs the church and just about everything they do.
We want to create fun environments and have awesome events with great sound, cool speakers, snacks, with loads of noise, energy and fun. Oh..and yea…can’t forget…the flyer has to be on point.

Here is the thing though….WE MIGHT BE IN DANGER because of that…
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