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Welcome!
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Welcome!

If we understand how we got to the unfavorable destination we are in, then we can trace our steps back. If we know how we got to the favorable destination we are in, then we can decipher how to stay there or go even higher. As a certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner and Motivational Coach, I am always looking to helping people answer tough questions about relationships, leadership, communication, personal growth, motivation, and faith. You’re in for a good thing. I hope that you meet that better version of yourself here.

Why Marriages Are Not Happening Between Same-Church Members


Have you noticed? Men are shying away from pursuing women in their own church and women in their church don’t seem to be open to them anyway. Marriages are happening alright…just not very often between members of the same church.

But yea….the prophesies are out. The word has “come forth”. You have claimed it by faith that very soon, you will find the one and get married. Soooo…whats happening? Why does it seem to happen everywhere except your church and even if it is happening, why is it not happening as often as it should?

By the way, this is not about marriages not taking place at a “church location”. This is specifically about why marriages are not happening between members of that church.
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You NEED These People in Your Life NOW


Want to live your best life and be your best self? Want to have a life that enables not cripples your dreams? Want to be supported in life and feed off forward propelling energy from those around you? Then you need to locate, recruit, and keep these people around you.
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Online Dating – The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Swipe right and find love.
Yea…dating sites and apps are meant to make that process super easy.
The online dating industry rakes in about $2 Billion dollars a year in the US alone.

It is growing in revenue but also growing in questions about it.
Should I be meeting people online? Is it safe, physically? emotionally? Does it increase the chances of marriage or does it work against it? Can I truly meet someone special online? and for believers, how do I get confirmation? Where does God fit in this?
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When You Realize You are More to Blame for That Breakup Than You Thought


You were too busy playing victim during the break up to see this. You were enjoying the attention everyone was giving you as you told your version of the story. You were pointing the finger so much that you forgot the four that were pointing back at you.

Now… looking back, you realize it wasn’t all their fault. In fact, you are more to blame than you thought. You contributed to the breakup more than you thought.

What do you do? How do you think through this? Well, here are a few things that are sure to help you on your journey of growth
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Don’t Think about Everything You Need to Do

It seems unavoidable….
That constant buzz in your head about all the things you need to do not just today …but this month….this year.

That list never seems to end. Just when you think you are catching a break to be able to relax, your internal alarm clock goes off about the text you need to reply, the email you need to send, the errand you need to run, or the business plan you need to complete.
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The Pressure to Marry – An Open Letter

An open letter to the biological or self-appointed parents, uncles, aunties, friends, and pastors who pressure singles about marriage.

Disclaimer. This may be uncomfortable.


I am just a regular guy that just happens to interact A LOT with young adults and singles about life, faith, decisions and especially relationships. That’s why I am writing you: Their biological or self-appointed parents, uncles, aunties, friends, pastors and yes… even you who don’t “say” anything but still communicate “a lot” about your concern regarding why that single person needs to get married.
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