Monthly archive - February 2017

Stay or Let it Go?

stay...or let it goThings were once great…once hopeful. But you are tired. Tired of feeling this way. Tired of this sinking feeling that this relationship needs to end.
It’s been haunting you and you are getting close (if you are not already there) to the point where you are “In it….but not really IN IT”.

After a while, (whether you voice it or not) certain thoughts start to creep in and start to get louder:

-Did I make a good decision to make a commitment to this person in the first place?
-Are we going somewhere or am I wasting my time?
-Where is the line between compromise and undermining myself?
-I’ve been here for so long…will it be worth it to start over?
-If I break this off, will people think the worst of me?
And the grand daddy of them all…
-Should I stay or let it go?
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Don’t Just Say I Love You … on Valentine’s Day, Have These Deep, Meaningful Conversations Instead

Vals day
So…its that time of year again where we are supposed to celebrate love and buy roses and go on dates and express our love and all that good stuff. It’s going to be a madhouse at flower shops, gift shops, and restaurants… and that’s all good.
There is one thing though, that I have noticed about V-Day: There is so much help out there about what to DO but not enough help on what to SAY or HOW to say it.

Sure you have that someone else wrote that seems to capture what you want to say in a few words….but as you know deep down inside, that can’t replace that deep 30-minute conversation when you are fully connected, vulnerable and actually communicating. Read more

When You are in Love but Frustrated about the Relationship

Frustrated black couple
Being in a relationship can be the best thing ever when things are peachy and both people are firing on all love cylinders.
But being in a relationship can be really frustrating when you know you care deeply about each other but still can’t seem to get on the same page about the nature of the relationship or your expectations for the relationship.

Why does this happen? How is it that two people can desire to be in a relationship care deeply about each other, have little to no issues about each other’s character, and yet are frustrated BY the relationship?
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