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Wakanda – An African’s Perspective on Black Panther

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last few weeks, you’ve heard about the super dope Black Panther movie that just came out. (Spoiler Alert*** FYI there may be some spoilers)

Wifey and I went to see it and yes. It lived up to all the hype. You leave the movie AFFECTED. It was great. Period. And this post is not about that greatness. The thing though, is that the cinematic experience is the smallest part of this movie. By far.
Many people left the movie theaters with the same emotions….but the emotions many Africans felt were different. Not that Africans didn’t love the movie (are you kidding? we adored it)…just that it affected us differently than what you are hearing about in mainstream media. Read more

You Are a Good Person, But…

Have you ever met someone you liked…and maybe even started a relationship with, that had a “big but”? (Thank goodness I am spelling this out and not saying this. lol).
For real though. You meet this person and most things are good but they just have this area that just screams “red flag” on the inside. Or maybe you are in a relationship/marriage and you feel there is something not quite right about things even though this person is a really nice person… and you cant pinpoint what it is (or cant articulate it)
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After 5 Years of Marriage…We’ve Learned a Few Things

So Bukky and I celebrated our 5th year anniversary in December and we both got some time to reflect on what we have learned after 5 years.

These are some of the most important lessons and realizations that have come out…and are totally worth sharing:
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Meeting (and Keeping) Quality People in Your Life

By now, most people fundamentally understand the value of being surrounded by quality people. In fact, many people have it as a resolution for the year.

You’ve heard quotes like:
“Show me your friends and I’ll tell you who you are” OR “You are an average of your 5 closest friends”

But HOW do you do meet (and keep) these quality people in your life?
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I DON’T Wish You a Happy New Year: New LIFE Resolutions Pt. 7

Because happiness is not enough…
Because you can be confused and happy.

No. I don’t wish you a Happy New Year. What I REALLY wish you…is a year of MEANINGFUL PROGRESS. PROGRESS. PROGRESS. A “kick butt-destiny changing-dream building-kick doors open” year.

Now before you get all juiced up and fired up…I need to bring you down from cloud 9 and tell you the truth:
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How Opposites Can Make it Work

You meet that person and sparks fly so hard you feel faint when you are with them.
They suck you outside your comfort zone so hard and so fast, your head spins. You KNOW what you’re doing is madness by your normal personality standards but your normal personality goes into hiding when you are with this person.

In fact, you KNOW you’re acting the fool.

You’re afraid of heights and there you are…going rock climbing.
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