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When You Realize You are More to Blame for That Breakup Than You Thought


You were too busy playing victim during the break up to see this. You were enjoying the attention everyone was giving you as you told your version of the story. You were pointing the finger so much that you forgot the four that were pointing back at you.

Now… looking back, you realize it wasn’t all their fault. In fact, you are more to blame than you thought. You contributed to the breakup more than you thought.

What do you do? How do you think through this? Well, here are a few things that are sure to help you on your journey of growth
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Don’t Think about Everything You Need to Do

It seems unavoidable….
That constant buzz in your head about all the things you need to do not just today …but this month….this year.

That list never seems to end. Just when you think you are catching a break to be able to relax, your internal alarm clock goes off about the text you need to reply, the email you need to send, the errand you need to run, or the business plan you need to complete.
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The Pressure to Marry – An Open Letter

An open letter to the biological or self-appointed parents, uncles, aunties, friends, and pastors who pressure singles about marriage.

Disclaimer. This may be uncomfortable.


I am just a regular guy that just happens to interact A LOT with young adults and singles about life, faith, decisions and especially relationships. That’s why I am writing you: Their biological or self-appointed parents, uncles, aunties, friends, pastors and yes… even you who don’t “say” anything but still communicate “a lot” about your concern regarding why that single person needs to get married.
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Stop Praying For a Good Spouse. For Real. Here’s Why

Cork Proposal
Stop it.
Halt the prayers for a sec.
You’re probably thinking “Tooobbbiii…where in the world could this be going?”
Don’t worry…keep reading and I’ll tell you why you should stop praying…at least in the way you are doing it and in the state you are in. (Plus there is something at the end you have to see)

Now…Let’s have a SERIOUS conversation.
This is not going to be very comfortable..but I do it in love…so that the veil over your eyes will be lifted.
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Most People May Not Find True Love…Here’s Why

Fireplace feet
Let’s get something straight. I want you to find true love. I hope you do. In fact, God wants you to find true love.
It’s important. It is a noble thing to desire and look for. But…even though many want it, most people won’t find it.
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What is the Minimum Connection You Should Feel Before Starting or Continuing a Relationship?

Dinner date illustration
So there you are…you are being approached by someone or you are approaching someone and you are asking yourself the ever-common question “What minimum connection must I feel with this person to be comfortable moving forward?”

This may sound like a simple question but some of the stories I have heard lately are just proof that matters of the heart can be complicated and things that should be plain to see could be very elusive. Read more