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The measure of a relationship

We measure time in years, minutes or seconds…we measure weight in kilograms, tons, pounds and so on. Distance? Kilometers, meters, feet, miles and so on. We look at speed based on the distance covered in a certain amount of time. Farad is the unit for measuring electrical capacitance; we measure sound in decibels…… temperature in Kelvin and Celsius…liquid in liters, gallons or ounces. Angles are measured in degrees.
We seem to be able to measure everything. Wealth, calories in food, the domestic product of a country, blood count, electrical inductance and everything between this galaxy and the next. Realtors seem to be able to tell you the value of a properly,and analysts can tell us the value of a company, employers seem to be experts at telling us the value we are worth.
How then do we measure our relationships? Read more

How to satisfy a Woman


Get your minds out of the gutter! Lol. This is like the question of the century though. Men don’t seem to understand women and even women don’t seem to understand women. What is a man to do to understand how to satisfy a woman on the long haul. What I’m about to tell you is probably going to add a spark to your relationship… You can thank me later.
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NEW LIFE RESOLUTIONS – Part 2. – 8 things you must resolve to do in order to immediately start living a more fulfilled life

WARNING. This is not about New Year resolutions. This is not a plan to lose weight, find love or change your fashion wardrobe, quit smoking or save more money. It’s not to say that New Year’s resolutions are bad…it’s just that people spend time and energy fighting the rats in their lives but don’t take the trash out. What you are about to read is not meant to be a 3 month motivational high that helps you do great things in the first quarter of the year and like an energy drink, leave you with a massive crash in the second quarter. This is more than that. What you about to read are perhaps the most important resolutions you must make to add fulfillment to your life beyond the “get in shape, save more, quit smoking, find love, do better in school etc” type of goals. Inside the timeless resolutions you’ll read below are some powerful keys to getting in shape, financial success, breaking bad habits and yes…finding love but more importantly, will help you live a fulfilled life.  Some of these LIFE resolutions are going to take some thought and creativity, and some of them will take time to turn into your personal culture. Either way, do these things and they might just be your ticket to that “fulfilled” life. Read more

NEW “LIFE” RESOLUTIONS- Part 1. – Why personal goals and resolutions fail, and what you should do about it.

Every year, gazillions of people scamper to determine their New Year resolutions. They proudly talk about it at the water cooler at work, they tweet about it, and they put it on their refrigerators. Lose weight, have more fun, meet more people, be more spiritual, save more. Cute. Unfortunately, “Cute” doesn’t get things done.  Why is it that people fail so miserably with New Year resolutions?Why is it that people have the same resolutions year after year? Maybe the goals weren’t realistic? or maybe the person didn’t have the capacity to accomplish? Well, maybe.Both of these are right but there is one thought process that people subconsciously ignore and it stabs them in the back. It’s dangerous, its mean and it’s very very sneaky. Read more

Owning a Classic


At the end of the day, we all want to feel like we own a classic relationship, marriage, body, career, house or whatever. To have people look at what we have and say “I didn’t think this could last that long”.

Think about a car for a sec…

It’s the car you want. No other one will do. It’s next year’s model. You save for it, make sacrifices for it and are ok with the idea of paying for it for many years ahead. As a matter of fact, you’re ok with whatever sacrifices you have to make now, just to take that car home. You envision driving it and taking it everywhere. You commit to washing it every week and getting a paint job every few years. Sometimes you even tell yourself that if the car ran well forever, you wouldn’t change it…you wouldn’t need another car. “I’ll drive this car until it falls apart”….so you tell yourself.
So you leave the dealership feeling like the songs “I’m too sexy” by Right Said Fred and “U can’t touch this” by MC Hammer were both about you. Read more

City Lights from the Plane


I love to fly into big cities at night. It’s so darn beautiful. It’s like a circus on the ground. Bright lights…glistering…you can almost sense the bustle from your window seat as you look down. The pilot’s voice comes on – “Ladies and gentlemen, as we start our descent, please make sure your seat backs and tray tables are in their full upright position …. Please turn off all electronic devices until we are ….blah blah blah.

Those deep yellow light bulbs clothe the city in a shiny golden blanket that shimmers and winks at you as the airplane makes that final turn to the runway. It’s almost like the city puts on a show for the flight arrival. It’s simply beautiful.

That’s how new relationships are, aren’t they? It’s like this person is covered in Gold…you’re seeing him/her from high up in the plane…no details… just a perfect package. The shimmer is so bright it’s almost blinding. Your excitement is at its peak as you simply watch the shimmer…your senses are so stimulated that you refuse to “ruin it”. Read more