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New Life Resolutions Part 6 – You Got Slapped in the Face by Last Year. This is How You Evaluate and Slap Back to Make This Year Way Better (+ FREE Strategic Thinking Worksheet)

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Many people are still sore or in shock from the slapping they got from last year. I mean don’t get me wrong, many of us put up a pretty good fight but let me tell you…for most people I have spoken to, last year felt like someone punched them in the face, slapped them around and threw them into a roller coaster…unbuckled.

It kind of reminds me of that MTV show from the early 2000s called DIARY. It’s tag line was “You think you know but you have no idea”. That’s probably what last year felt like.
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I’ve Been Pregnant for 11 Months – Meet the Baby!

I have waited for this moment for months. So many dates have been set and then postponed. This journey has changed my life in so many ways and I couldn’t have envisioned a better end result.

People have been abuzz about this for the better part of this year and I am now able to reveal this baby.
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Every Unmarried Christian (and even Newlyweds) Must LEARN, HEAL & DEAL With These 6 Critical Areas ASAP

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So in the last article, I mentioned that unmarried Christians underestimate ONE thing before marriage…and many pay dearly for it.
THATS.NOT.COMPLETELY.TRUE.
In actuality, most unmarried Christians underestimate SIX CRITICAL AREAS and the repercussions are immense.

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Unmarried Christians Underestimate This ONE Thing Before Marriage…and Many Pay Dearly For it

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You know what? Unmarried Christians (and even Newlyweds) are actually trying really hard to get as much information as possible about this marriage thing. They are attending relationship events and conferences, they are reading books, listening to podcasts, and eating up relationship videos on YouTube. Many Christian singles are putting in the effort and many churches are doing their best to meet the demand by putting these types of events together. I travel quite a bit to speak at these events and get to see firsthand the desire of unmarried Christians and even Newlyweds to be educated on the matter and I can tell you that we need to continue to have them. But there is a HUGE problem here… Read more

When You Ask Her Out (Or Propose) and She Says She is not Ready

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So I’ve gotten this question from a couple of readers and decided it was time to write about it.

This is a highly stressful situation.

You’ve thought it through it and you’ve weighed the pros and cons. You have a pretty good feeling about it and so you pop the question and ask her to “take it to the next” level (whatever that is) and then she hits you with perhaps the worst possible reply a guy can get: “I’m not ready”

You stand there in shock. First of all…what does “not ready” even mean?
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Your Relationship List and its Unintended Consequences

your-relationship-list-and-its-unintended-consequencesYes….”The List”.
The one you’ve been working on for perhaps several years now. Both single men and single women have them.
Now I have to admit…the ladies seem to be more passionate and more robust with their “list”…but men have them too.

Let me start by saying that lists are good. This is not an attack on your sacred conscious or unconscious list (The unconscious list is an entirely different beast).

This is however, a reminder about the often forgotten, underestimated and perhaps even uncomfortable part of having a “list”…especially for believers.

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