Category archive - Relationships

How to satisfy a Man

How do you satisfy a man? No really. Many women are really starting to get really frustrated about that question because they’ve been told that men are less complicated. Give him good food, good sex, don’t nag and you should have a happy man. They’ve been told that they themselves (women) are the ones that are more complicated.
Believe that, and you might have a man that sees home as the perfect corner eatery…where he can have his fill of stew and wild sex. He’ll like you. A lot. But he won’t be satisfied.
I never claim to know it all and not all these pointers will fit you, but understand them and you’ll certainly increase his level of satisfaction. FYI, if you haven’t already, you need to read the flip side “How to satisfy a Woman”. So here it is…
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I know… but that’s not enough : A reader’s thoughts

I have never done this before. I mean I read EVERY…yes EVERY comment that posts on the blog from readers because I am still eager to learn and you…yes…you readers teach me with your responses. Many readers write me “off record” and some are my life/motivational coaching clients…but I have never done this before….responding to a reader’s comment and using that response as the basis of a post. However, this initially off-record email I got was so directly related to my thoughts on the epilogue for the “I know…but that’s not enough” series that I feel this is the best way to do this. So I contacted her and got her permission to do so. You are reading this because she said yes. We will call her “X”… Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 3

You deserve to be loved by your loved ones. You do. Is it too much to ask? Nah. You should be loved. The problem however, is that there are so many variables about love. There are so many pieces to the puzzle when it comes to getting good love. Sometimes it’s our interpretation of love that gets in the way. He brought chocolate, what you wanted was time. She offers sex and all you want is to be allowed to take off your superman cape and be vulnerable for a day.Other times, it’s our ever changing circumstances that are in the way of getting good loving. Our inability to deal with stress makes us unlovable, our insecurities cause us to always have our pistol loaded to fire away at any emotional taunting. After a while, we come to the awareness that we don’t feel loved. (Regardless of whether or not the reasons are “self” or “other” inflicted) We don’t know why or how…all we know is that we are “alone”. We don’t feel the love. We feel this black hole of disconnect. Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 2

You’ve just come to that point. That point where knowing you’re loved is not enough…that point where you want to feel loved. You need evidence. You are restless about it (and perhaps rightfully so) and you are getting the bold blood flowing… You’re ready to hold an emotional gun to our significant others’ head and demand that love. You want to tell them to get on their emotional knees and fork out the money love. We don’t even realize when these thoughts pop in and how we make these decisions. All we know is how we feel and that we don’t feel loved. Then it starts…without even thinking much… Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 1

“How come the only way you know high you get me is to see how far I fall.” It’s a line from one of my favorite songs- “Heartbreak Warfare” by John Mayer. Beautiful. My version: “How come you have to see me in an emotional wreck just to prove to yourself that I care about you…how come you have to see me desperate before you know I need you?”
I think can help John…and probably you too… Read more

The measure of a relationship

We measure time in years, minutes or seconds…we measure weight in kilograms, tons, pounds and so on. Distance? Kilometers, meters, feet, miles and so on. We look at speed based on the distance covered in a certain amount of time. Farad is the unit for measuring electrical capacitance; we measure sound in decibels…… temperature in Kelvin and Celsius…liquid in liters, gallons or ounces. Angles are measured in degrees.
We seem to be able to measure everything. Wealth, calories in food, the domestic product of a country, blood count, electrical inductance and everything between this galaxy and the next. Realtors seem to be able to tell you the value of a properly,and analysts can tell us the value of a company, employers seem to be experts at telling us the value we are worth.
How then do we measure our relationships? Read more