Category archive - Relationships

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 3

You deserve to be loved by your loved ones. You do. Is it too much to ask? Nah. You should be loved. The problem however, is that there are so many variables about love. There are so many pieces to the puzzle when it comes to getting good love. Sometimes it’s our interpretation of love that gets in the way. He brought chocolate, what you wanted was time. She offers sex and all you want is to be allowed to take off your superman cape and be vulnerable for a day.Other times, it’s our ever changing circumstances that are in the way of getting good loving. Our inability to deal with stress makes us unlovable, our insecurities cause us to always have our pistol loaded to fire away at any emotional taunting. After a while, we come to the awareness that we don’t feel loved. (Regardless of whether or not the reasons are “self” or “other” inflicted) We don’t know why or how…all we know is that we are “alone”. We don’t feel the love. We feel this black hole of disconnect. Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 2

You’ve just come to that point. That point where knowing you’re loved is not enough…that point where you want to feel loved. You need evidence. You are restless about it (and perhaps rightfully so) and you are getting the bold blood flowing… You’re ready to hold an emotional gun to our significant others’ head and demand that love. You want to tell them to get on their emotional knees and fork out the money love. We don’t even realize when these thoughts pop in and how we make these decisions. All we know is how we feel and that we don’t feel loved. Then it starts…without even thinking much… Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 1

“How come the only way you know high you get me is to see how far I fall.” It’s a line from one of my favorite songs- “Heartbreak Warfare” by John Mayer. Beautiful. My version: “How come you have to see me in an emotional wreck just to prove to yourself that I care about you…how come you have to see me desperate before you know I need you?”
I think can help John…and probably you too… Read more

The measure of a relationship

We measure time in years, minutes or seconds…we measure weight in kilograms, tons, pounds and so on. Distance? Kilometers, meters, feet, miles and so on. We look at speed based on the distance covered in a certain amount of time. Farad is the unit for measuring electrical capacitance; we measure sound in decibels…… temperature in Kelvin and Celsius…liquid in liters, gallons or ounces. Angles are measured in degrees.
We seem to be able to measure everything. Wealth, calories in food, the domestic product of a country, blood count, electrical inductance and everything between this galaxy and the next. Realtors seem to be able to tell you the value of a properly,and analysts can tell us the value of a company, employers seem to be experts at telling us the value we are worth.
How then do we measure our relationships? Read more

How to satisfy a Woman

Get your minds out of the gutter! Lol. This is like the question of the century though. Men don’t seem to understand women and even women don’t seem to understand women. What is a man to do to understand how to satisfy a woman on the long haul. What I’m about to tell you is probably going to add a spark to your relationship… You can thank me later.
It hit me when I was in Mexico last year while I was on some personal business… Merida, Mexico to be exact.  Beautiful little town, great people and fantastic original local cuisine. In Merida, the best place for local cuisine is said to be the Chaya Maya restaurant and so off I went.
I enter and I’m greeted with the sound of chicken sizzling on the fajita grill and tacos being made. Maduro (Spanish for sweet plantain /dodo) was in abundance and I’m ready to chow down. As I sat alone at my table, I couldn’t help but notice a couple in the room. The woman looked so in love. She loved his embrace and she barely allowed any space between them. It looked like I was in a Spanish soap opera. They were kissing like it was going out of style and spitting out sweet nothings in Spanish as the sizzling chicken, steak and onions added the soundtrack from the nearby open kitchen. Read more

Owning a classic

It’s the car you want. No other one will do. You save for it, make sacrifices for it and are ok with the idea of paying for it for many years ahead. As a matter of fact, you’re ok with whatever sacrifices you have to make now, just to take that car home. You envision driving it and taking it everywhere. You commit to washing it every week and getting a paint job every few years. Sometimes you even tell yourself that if the car ran well forever, you wouldn’t change it…you wouldn’t need another car. “I’ll drive this car until it falls apart”….so you tell yourself.
So you leave the dealership and it happens exactly as you envisioned it. You feel great driving it, your friends and family congratulate you and high-five you. Your self esteem skyrockets and you’re feeling like the songs “I’m too sexy” by Right Said Fred and “U can’t touch this” by MC Hammer were both about you. Read more