Category archive - Relationships

The Flip Side…Valentine’s Day

I wonder… I really do. I wonder what it would be like to flip the table and switch roles on Valentine’s Day. You know…have guys get all the gifts and chocolate at the office, have the ladies go crazy trying to book a reservation at a fancy restaurant,or have the ladies freak out proposing to their man at dinner. What would it look like if men were bursting with curiosity about what their woman planned for V.day. How about having the ladies pick up the huge check at dinner. See what V.Day would look like if the roles were switched.Enjoy the video…it had me rolling.  Read more

How to satisfy a Man

How do you satisfy a man? No really. Many women are really starting to get really frustrated about that question because they’ve been told that men are less complicated. Give him good food, good sex, don’t nag and you should have a happy man. They’ve been told that they themselves (women) are the ones that are more complicated.
Believe that, and you might have a man that sees home as the perfect corner eatery…where he can have his fill of stew and wild sex. He’ll like you. A lot. But he won’t be satisfied.
I never claim to know it all and not all these pointers will fit you, but understand them and you’ll certainly increase his level of satisfaction. FYI, if you haven’t already, you need to read the flip side “How to satisfy a Woman”. So here it is…
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I know… but that’s not enough : A reader’s thoughts

I have never done this before. I mean I read EVERY…yes EVERY comment that posts on the blog from readers because I am still eager to learn and you…yes…you readers teach me with your responses. Many readers write me “off record” and some are my life/motivational coaching clients…but I have never done this before….responding to a reader’s comment and using that response as the basis of a post. However, this initially off-record email I got was so directly related to my thoughts on the epilogue for the “I know…but that’s not enough” series that I feel this is the best way to do this. So I contacted her and got her permission to do so. You are reading this because she said yes. We will call her “X”… Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 3

You deserve to be loved by your loved ones. You do. Is it too much to ask? Nah. You should be loved. The problem however, is that there are so many variables about love. There are so many pieces to the puzzle when it comes to getting good love. Sometimes it’s our interpretation of love that gets in the way. He brought chocolate, what you wanted was time. She offers sex and all you want is to be allowed to take off your superman cape and be vulnerable for a day.Other times, it’s our ever changing circumstances that are in the way of getting good loving. Our inability to deal with stress makes us unlovable, our insecurities cause us to always have our pistol loaded to fire away at any emotional taunting. After a while, we come to the awareness that we don’t feel loved. (Regardless of whether or not the reasons are “self” or “other” inflicted) We don’t know why or how…all we know is that we are “alone”. We don’t feel the love. We feel this black hole of disconnect. Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 2

You’ve just come to that point. That point where knowing you’re loved is not enough…that point where you want to feel loved. You need evidence. You are restless about it (and perhaps rightfully so) and you are getting the bold blood flowing… You’re ready to hold an emotional gun to our significant others’ head and demand that love. You want to tell them to get on their emotional knees and fork out the money love. We don’t even realize when these thoughts pop in and how we make these decisions. All we know is how we feel and that we don’t feel loved. Then it starts…without even thinking much… Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 1

“How come the only way you know high you get me is to see how far I fall.” It’s a line from one of my favorite songs- “Heartbreak Warfare” by John Mayer. Beautiful. My version: “How come you have to see me in an emotional wreck just to prove to yourself that I care about you…how come you have to see me desperate before you know I need you?”
I think can help John…and probably you too… Read more