Category archive - Relationships

When You Ask Her Out (Or Propose) and She Says She is not Ready

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So I’ve gotten this question from a couple of readers and decided it was time to write about it.

This is a highly stressful situation.

You’ve thought it through it and you’ve weighed the pros and cons. You have a pretty good feeling about it and so you pop the question and ask her to “take it to the next” level (whatever that is) and then she hits you with perhaps the worst possible reply a guy can get: “I’m not ready”

You stand there in shock. First of all…what does “not ready” even mean?
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Your Relationship List and its Unintended Consequences

your-relationship-list-and-its-unintended-consequencesYes….”The List”.
The one you’ve been working on for perhaps several years now. Both single men and single women have them.
Now I have to admit…the ladies seem to be more passionate and more robust with their “list”…but men have them too.

Let me start by saying that lists are good. This is not an attack on your sacred conscious or unconscious list (The unconscious list is an entirely different beast).

This is however, a reminder about the often forgotten, underestimated and perhaps even uncomfortable part of having a “list”…especially for believers.

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Sure You Are In a Ship…But is it YOUR Ideal RelationSHIP?

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You are seeing someone. (At least you kinda think so). You are at least happy to have what YOU define as some type of relationship. However…you KNOW deep down inside that the “relationship” you are in is not really what a relationship is supposed to be. Something is missing…your relationship feels wobbly…like your relationship vehicle is running on 3 tires instead of 4….that sorta thing.

Well, you are in some type of “ship”. But its not your ideal relationship. Which is it then?
You tell me. Here are a few to get you thinking:
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When Christian Men Are Asked About Their Spiritual Lives On Dates

How do Christian men take that? Some women say that some men are either offended, get uncomfortable and or even annoyed!

If the man is a Christian, why should he be uncomfortable when asked about his Christian life on a date?

It’s a legitimate question.

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Sexual Temptation – How Good Men Can Better Manage It

Sexual Temptation.This is just one of THOSE topics. We dont talk about it enough and when we do talk about it, men typically dont leave this conversation feeling empowered or encouraged. More like Guilty.

Sexual Temptation - How Good Men Can Better Manage ItIt’s like this awkward place no one wants to go…this box where we both (a) somehow assume it is a male problem and (b) somehow believe that Godly Christian men should be allergic to sexual temptation, and the ones who feel tempted are obviously not Christian enough. Read more

Why Some Men Take A While To Propose…or Don’t At All

Yes. I am going to go there. Why? Because the issue of timing, proposal, and “taking things to the next level” is one of the most frustrating and confusing aspects of dating.

Both men and women see this as a “very touchy” issue. Women are frustrated because they think men just stall for no good reason and Men are frustrated because they feel the pressure to propose and their reasons for waiting never seem to be good enough.

Why some men take a while to propose...or dont at all

Women are frustrated because it just seems so logical and easy to “take it to the next level”, and Men are frustrated because they cant seem to properly articulate the deeper reasons why “popping the question” is not as easy as it sounds.

It’s a mess. Read more