Category archive - Single Life

What is the Minimum Connection You Should Feel Before Starting or Continuing a Relationship?

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So there you are…you are being approached by someone or you are approaching someone and you are asking yourself the ever-common question “What minimum connection must I feel with this person to be comfortable moving forward?”

This may sound like a simple question but some of the stories I have heard lately are just proof that matters of the heart can be complicated and things that should be plain to see could be very elusive. Read more

Every Unmarried Christian (and even Newlyweds) Must LEARN, HEAL & DEAL With These 6 Critical Areas ASAP

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So in the last article, I mentioned that unmarried Christians underestimate ONE thing before marriage…and many pay dearly for it.
THATS.NOT.COMPLETELY.TRUE.
In actuality, most unmarried Christians underestimate SIX CRITICAL AREAS and the repercussions are immense.

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Unmarried Christians Underestimate This ONE Thing Before Marriage…and Many Pay Dearly For it

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You know what? Unmarried Christians (and even Newlyweds) are actually trying really hard to get as much information as possible about this marriage thing. They are attending relationship events and conferences, they are reading books, listening to podcasts, and eating up relationship videos on YouTube. Many Christian singles are putting in the effort and many churches are doing their best to meet the demand by putting these types of events together. I travel quite a bit to speak at these events and get to see firsthand the desire of unmarried Christians and even Newlyweds to be educated on the matter and I can tell you that we need to continue to have them. But there is a HUGE problem here… Read more

When You Ask Her Out (Or Propose) and She Says She is not Ready

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So I’ve gotten this question from a couple of readers and decided it was time to write about it.

This is a highly stressful situation.

You’ve thought it through it and you’ve weighed the pros and cons. You have a pretty good feeling about it and so you pop the question and ask her to “take it to the next” level (whatever that is) and then she hits you with perhaps the worst possible reply a guy can get: “I’m not ready”

You stand there in shock. First of all…what does “not ready” even mean?
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Your Relationship List and its Unintended Consequences

your-relationship-list-and-its-unintended-consequencesYes….”The List”.
The one you’ve been working on for perhaps several years now. Both single men and single women have them.
Now I have to admit…the ladies seem to be more passionate and more robust with their “list”…but men have them too.

Let me start by saying that lists are good. This is not an attack on your sacred conscious or unconscious list (The unconscious list is an entirely different beast).

This is however, a reminder about the often forgotten, underestimated and perhaps even uncomfortable part of having a “list”…especially for believers.

Here it is. Read more

Why Some Men Take A While To Propose…or Don’t At All

Yes. I am going to go there. Why? Because the issue of timing, proposal, and “taking things to the next level” is one of the most frustrating and confusing aspects of dating.

Both men and women see this as a “very touchy” issue. Women are frustrated because they think men just stall for no good reason and Men are frustrated because they feel the pressure to propose and their reasons for waiting never seem to be good enough.

Why some men take a while to propose...or dont at all

Women are frustrated because it just seems so logical and easy to “take it to the next level”, and Men are frustrated because they cant seem to properly articulate the deeper reasons why “popping the question” is not as easy as it sounds.

It’s a mess. Read more