Category archive - Single Life

Stop Praying For a Good Spouse. For Real. Here’s Why

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Stop it.
Halt the prayers for a sec.
You’re probably thinking “Tooobbbiii…where in the world could this be going?”
Don’t worry…keep reading and I’ll tell you why you should stop praying…at least in the way you are doing it and in the state you are in. (Plus there is something at the end you have to see)

Now…Let’s have a SERIOUS conversation.
This is not going to be very comfortable..but I do it in love…so that the veil over your eyes will be lifted.
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Most People May Not Find True Love…Here’s Why

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Let’s get something straight. I want you to find true love. I hope you do. In fact, God wants you to find true love.
It’s important. It is a noble thing to desire and look for. But…even though many want it, most people won’t find it.
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What is the Minimum Connection You Should Feel Before Starting or Continuing a Relationship?

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So there you are…you are being approached by someone or you are approaching someone and you are asking yourself the ever-common question “What minimum connection must I feel with this person to be comfortable moving forward?”

This may sound like a simple question but some of the stories I have heard lately are just proof that matters of the heart can be complicated and things that should be plain to see could be very elusive. Read more

Every Unmarried Christian (and even Newlyweds) Must LEARN, HEAL & DEAL With These 6 Critical Areas ASAP

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So in the last article, I mentioned that unmarried Christians underestimate ONE thing before marriage…and many pay dearly for it.
THATS.NOT.COMPLETELY.TRUE.
In actuality, most unmarried Christians underestimate SIX CRITICAL AREAS and the repercussions are immense.

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Unmarried Christians Underestimate This ONE Thing Before Marriage…and Many Pay Dearly For it

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You know what? Unmarried Christians (and even Newlyweds) are actually trying really hard to get as much information as possible about this marriage thing. They are attending relationship events and conferences, they are reading books, listening to podcasts, and eating up relationship videos on YouTube. Many Christian singles are putting in the effort and many churches are doing their best to meet the demand by putting these types of events together. I travel quite a bit to speak at these events and get to see firsthand the desire of unmarried Christians and even Newlyweds to be educated on the matter and I can tell you that we need to continue to have them. But there is a HUGE problem here… Read more

When You Ask Her Out (Or Propose) and She Says She is not Ready

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So I’ve gotten this question from a couple of readers and decided it was time to write about it.

This is a highly stressful situation.

You’ve thought it through it and you’ve weighed the pros and cons. You have a pretty good feeling about it and so you pop the question and ask her to “take it to the next” level (whatever that is) and then she hits you with perhaps the worst possible reply a guy can get: “I’m not ready”

You stand there in shock. First of all…what does “not ready” even mean?
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