Category archive - Single Life

When You Ask Her Out (Or Propose) and She Says She is not Ready

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So I’ve gotten this question from a couple of readers and decided it was time to write about it.

This is a highly stressful situation.

You’ve thought it through it and you’ve weighed the pros and cons. You have a pretty good feeling about it and so you pop the question and ask her to “take it to the next” level (whatever that is) and then she hits you with perhaps the worst possible reply a guy can get: “I’m not ready”

You stand there in shock. First of all…what does “not ready” even mean?
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Your Relationship List and its Unintended Consequences

your-relationship-list-and-its-unintended-consequencesYes….”The List”.
The one you’ve been working on for perhaps several years now. Both single men and single women have them.
Now I have to admit…the ladies seem to be more passionate and more robust with their “list”…but men have them too.

Let me start by saying that lists are good. This is not an attack on your sacred conscious or unconscious list (The unconscious list is an entirely different beast).

This is however, a reminder about the often forgotten, underestimated and perhaps even uncomfortable part of having a “list”…especially for believers.

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Why Some Men Take A While To Propose…or Don’t At All

Yes. I am going to go there. Why? Because the issue of timing, proposal, and “taking things to the next level” is one of the most frustrating and confusing aspects of dating.

Both men and women see this as a “very touchy” issue. Women are frustrated because they think men just stall for no good reason and Men are frustrated because they feel the pressure to propose and their reasons for waiting never seem to be good enough.

Why some men take a while to propose...or dont at all

Women are frustrated because it just seems so logical and easy to “take it to the next level”, and Men are frustrated because they cant seem to properly articulate the deeper reasons why “popping the question” is not as easy as it sounds.

It’s a mess. Read more

When Your Parents Might Disagree With Who You Want To Marry

When Your Parents Might Disagree With Who You Want To Marry

They don’t like the person…they don’t like their family background…they don’t like where you met…they don’t like how fast your relationship is moving; they don’t like the person’s cultural  or spiritual background…The list of possible versions of this is endless. Read more

A LOADED GUN Relationship or Marriage

A Loaded Gun Relationship Or Marriage

“Pishaun!” “Pishaun!” I yelled as I ducked behind the yellow couch in our living room many years ago as a kid. My younger brother and I played war games all the time growing up. “Pishaun!” I yelled again as I pointed my toy gun and sent an imaginary bullet towards my opponent on the other side of the room…hoping to silence him for the afternoon. Did it work? Did he show respect for his older brother? NO. He sent imaginary bullets, grenades and missiles. Read more

How Christian Single Ladies Would Like To Be Approached AND How Christian Single Men Would Like Them To Respond.

Why do the single men in your church go outside your church to find their “bone”?
Why do single women say that there are no men in church?
Why do even well-intentioned men not get positive responses when they approach women in church?
Why do men in church seem hesitant to approach the women in church that they are attracted to?
Why are single women hesitant when it comes to being approached by single men in church?

Approaching christian ladies and responding to christian men Read more