Category archive - Thought Provoking

New LIFE Resolutions – Part 3: The Paradigm Shift on Resolutions

New Year ResolutionOver the last couple of years, I have had a major paradigm shift when it comes to New Year Resolutions.I have asked myself some very deep questions and have tried to have a very honest conversation with myself. I have asked questions like:
-Why is it that people fail so miserably at goals they set for themselves even when they know that failure at those goals means continued self destruction?
-Why is it that we give up on our goals when the going gets tough?
-Why do New Year Resolutions fail so quickly…What does it take to have successful new behavior goals? Read more

How do you SMELL?

How do you affect peopleYou’ve seen that movie. Someone is on the run …running through the forest, dodging trees and shrubs. Out of breath, bends over to suck in some oxygen and then continues to run. A few hundred yards behind that person….the pursuers…led by dogs. Dogs that are tracking the scent left behind by the fleeing runner. The pursuers can’t see the runner… but the dogs can still smell him or her.
Usually, the pursuers give the dog something that belongs to the runner and they let the dog smell that shirt, car, glove or whatever, and that becomes a recognizable scent. Read more

How to receive CONSTRUCTIVE criticism

IJMm-app-icon-logoDon’t let the title fool you. Normally, the fact that you are receiving something means that it is being given and under normal circumstances, we cannot alter what is being given because well, it’s being given. We typically just accept what we are given and then maybe change it later…after we have received. Rarely do we control the process by which we receive something. I am challenging that today and you are probably going to have a paradigm shift by the time you finish reading this. Read more

Paintings, Instagram and Mirrors

Bill_Clinton_-_Presidential_portraitVisit a presidential library in the U.S and you will see the great history of presidential portraits that adorn the walls. They capture these great men in different emotions and poses but one thing is consistent. …they all look for the most part…presidential, and it’s not too much to assume that if the president of the greatest country in the world does not like the depiction, he can say…let’s do it over. Sound familiar? Read more

Seizure at the light

IJMm-app-icon-logoI had never seen anything like that before. The right side of his mouth looked like it was stretching towards his right ear. The veins on his neck were elevated and I just sat there…in my car…watching in a daze. The traffic light turned green but I couldn’t get my foot to push the pedal.
As I approached that light, I saw him towards my right at the street corner. White sleeveless undershirt and sky blue oversized basketball shorts. Something about him fixed my eyes as I approached the light. When I got to the light, I finally saw what was going on. Read more

Owning a Classic


At the end of the day, we all want to feel like we own a classic relationship, marriage, body, career, house or whatever. To have people look at what we have and say “I didn’t think this could last that long”.

Think about a car for a sec…

It’s the car you want. No other one will do. It’s next year’s model. You save for it, make sacrifices for it and are ok with the idea of paying for it for many years ahead. As a matter of fact, you’re ok with whatever sacrifices you have to make now, just to take that car home. You envision driving it and taking it everywhere. You commit to washing it every week and getting a paint job every few years. Sometimes you even tell yourself that if the car ran well forever, you wouldn’t change it…you wouldn’t need another car. “I’ll drive this car until it falls apart”….so you tell yourself.
So you leave the dealership feeling like the songs “I’m too sexy” by Right Said Fred and “U can’t touch this” by MC Hammer were both about you. Read more