Category archive - Personal Development

How to GIVE constructive criticism

IJMm-app-icon-logoIt’s not easy to give constructive criticism. No. Let me rephrase that. It can be VERY hard to give constructive criticism. Yes the receiver has a major responsibility in HOW the message is received but that process of “receiving” becomes significantly easier if you the giver, do it right.Whether it’s a romantic relationship, business relationship, team setting , leader-follower relationship, parent child, sibling, friendship or any other relationship, these points below will not only make people receive your feedback better, but you will also become a trusted ally in the lives of those people. Read more

How to receive CONSTRUCTIVE criticism

IJMm-app-icon-logoDon’t let the title fool you. Normally, the fact that you are receiving something means that it is being given and under normal circumstances, we cannot alter what is being given because well, it’s being given. We typically just accept what we are given and then maybe change it later…after we have received. Rarely do we control the process by which we receive something. I am challenging that today and you are probably going to have a paradigm shift by the time you finish reading this. Read more

Do YOUR Work!

I sat there riveted. I was hanging on to every word. It was as if he was calling me out and calling my bluff. “Any second now everyone is going to know he is talking about me” …I thought. It was that powerful. It was a few years ago and I was listening to Myles Munroe.  It’s in Miami, my friends are on the beach but I would have kicked myself if I missed the meeting…and I’m still recovering and I hope I never fully recover.
I didn’t get new information, I got new perspective. That perspective lit a fire under me and sparked a journey to connecting with a part of my higher self.
I am going to give that perspective to you. Read more

The PETER Moment

It was day 3 or so of my Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner training. There are many more days to go but fireworks are already going off in my mind and the whole class is devouring all this new information like hungry wolves. The instructors are incredible. It’s great. I couldn’t wait for the training to be over so I could be licensed to help as many people as I can and help them live better lives.  As we began to wrap up for the day, something magnificent happened…something that humbled me. It was as if the forces that be knew exactly what I needed to hear at that moment…what I needed to see…to feel.

Peter happened. Read more

I know… but that’s not enough : A reader’s thoughts

I have never done this before. I mean I read EVERY…yes EVERY comment that posts on the blog from readers because I am still eager to learn and you…yes…you readers teach me with your responses. Many readers write me “off record” and some are my life/motivational coaching clients…but I have never done this before….responding to a reader’s comment and using that response as the basis of a post. However, this initially off-record email I got was so directly related to my thoughts on the epilogue for the “I know…but that’s not enough” series that I feel this is the best way to do this. So I contacted her and got her permission to do so. You are reading this because she said yes. We will call her “X”… Read more

I know…but that’s not enough – Part 3

You deserve to be loved by your loved ones. You do. Is it too much to ask? Nah. You should be loved. The problem however, is that there are so many variables about love. There are so many pieces to the puzzle when it comes to getting good love. Sometimes it’s our interpretation of love that gets in the way. He brought chocolate, what you wanted was time. She offers sex and all you want is to be allowed to take off your superman cape and be vulnerable for a day.Other times, it’s our ever changing circumstances that are in the way of getting good loving. Our inability to deal with stress makes us unlovable, our insecurities cause us to always have our pistol loaded to fire away at any emotional taunting. After a while, we come to the awareness that we don’t feel loved. (Regardless of whether or not the reasons are “self” or “other” inflicted) We don’t know why or how…all we know is that we are “alone”. We don’t feel the love. We feel this black hole of disconnect. Read more