Category archive - Relationships

One Halo for Two People


Have you ever said…or heard someone say “I don’t deserve him/her” when trying to express appreciation for the other person?

What many people are trying to convey, is just that: appreciation.
Many people, however, actually mean it. For them, it’s not about sounding romantic or being cute. For them, they are living it.
They truly believe deep down inside that they don’t deserve this person.

The thing though, is that “Appreciative of” vs “not deserving of” don’t always mean the same thing.
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The Flipside: When He is not Ready to Take the Relationship to the Next Level


A little while ago, I wrote a piece titled “When You Ask Her Out (or Propose) and She Says She is Not Ready”

It was mainly to the fellas…helping them manage that response and so on. You should read it. (Link is at the bottom)

Lately though…I have been getting questions from ladies about men who are not taking the relationship to the next level. Men who are saying:
“It was nice getting to know you but…”
“I really like you…but…”
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You Are a Good Person, But…


Have you ever met someone you liked…and maybe even started a relationship with, that had a “big but”? (Thank goodness I am spelling this out and not saying this. lol).
For real though. You meet this person and most things are good but they just have this area that just screams “red flag” on the inside. Or maybe you are in a relationship/marriage and you feel there is something not quite right about things even though this person is a really nice person… and you cant pinpoint what it is (or cant articulate it)
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After 5 Years of Marriage…We’ve Learned a Few Things


So Bukky and I celebrated our 5th year anniversary in December and we both got some time to reflect on what we have learned after 5 years.

These are some of the most important lessons and realizations that have come out…and are totally worth sharing:
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How Opposites Can Make it Work


You meet that person and sparks fly so hard you feel faint when you are with them.
They suck you outside your comfort zone so hard and so fast, your head spins. You KNOW what you’re doing is madness by your normal personality standards but your normal personality goes into hiding when you are with this person.

In fact, you KNOW you’re acting the fool.

You’re afraid of heights and there you are…going rock climbing.
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Seven (Seemingly-Unrelated) Things that Unconsciously Help You to be Good at Marriage


I am a huge (like HUUUGGGEEE) advocate for conscious intentional preparation for marriage and continuous improvement together when you enter it. However, there are some things that seem totally unrelated but can start to wire (or rewire) our mind for marriage. I love this list and you will too. You’ll probably say “Hmm never thought of that before” a couple of times.
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