Category archive - Thought Provoking

To Young Unmarried Men – An Open Letter You Should Read Slowly

Hey buddy,

It is quite possible that you have heard some of these points before. I am hoping though, that this letter will drill them in further.

This is about your life and your heart. This is about helping you navigate your life as an unmarried young man in a way that will hopefully set you up to have the fulfilling life and marriage you want.

Get ready. Some of them might be very counter-intuitive.
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One Halo for Two People


Have you ever said…or heard someone say “I don’t deserve him/her” when trying to express appreciation for the other person?

What many people are trying to convey, is just that: appreciation.
Many people, however, actually mean it. For them, it’s not about sounding romantic or being cute. For them, they are living it.
They truly believe deep down inside that they don’t deserve this person.

The thing though, is that “Appreciative of” vs “not deserving of” don’t always mean the same thing.
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Wakanda – An African’s Perspective on Black Panther

Unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last few weeks, you’ve heard about the super dope Black Panther movie that just came out. (Spoiler Alert*** FYI there may be some spoilers)

Wifey and I went to see it and yes. It lived up to all the hype. You leave the movie AFFECTED. It was great. Period. And this post is not about that greatness. The thing though, is that the cinematic experience is the smallest part of this movie. By far.
Many people left the movie theaters with the same emotions….but the emotions many Africans felt were different. Not that Africans didn’t love the movie (are you kidding? we adored it)…just that it affected us differently than what you are hearing about in mainstream media. Read more

Seven (Seemingly-Unrelated) Things that Unconsciously Help You to be Good at Marriage


I am a huge (like HUUUGGGEEE) advocate for conscious intentional preparation for marriage and continuous improvement together when you enter it. However, there are some things that seem totally unrelated but can start to wire (or rewire) our mind for marriage. I love this list and you will too. You’ll probably say “Hmm never thought of that before” a couple of times.
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Socio-relational Addictions You Might Not Know You Have (and How They’re Messing with Your Life)


Sure there are the usual suspects when we talk about addiction. You know them well. Alcohol, Drugs, Pornography and all that.
I need to tell you though, that there are some socio-relational addictions (addictions that have to do with our social life and our relationships) that I perceive many people are dealing with, without even knowing the issue exists.
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Fear vs Caution in Life and Relationships

Fear vs Caution in Life and Relationships
Tony Robbins said it best. “Life is the dance between what we fear the most and what we want the most.”

I recently published an article on fear titled “Fear may be secretly destroying your life and relationships…See how and conquer it”. It explored the different ways fear creeps in and holds us back from our best relationships and lives.

Someone read the article and asked a very important question: “How does one balance between fear and being careful?”

As I thought about that, I started to get even deeper perspective on fear.

Here is what I have come to find out about the balance between fear and caution in life and relationships. Read more