All posts tagged 'Relationships'

MEN, what happens when SHE makes more money? How Men make it an Issue

I recently wrote the article “Joint v.s Separate accounts – The underlying relationship issues we are not talking about” (READ IT!) that brought about some deep questions/responses from my readers both on and offline and while I have answered as many of them as I can, one question seems to come up a lot and that is “What happens when the woman makes more or all of the income in a relationship or marriage?

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Ask most men and they will tell you that they prefer to make more money than their wives and that’s somewhat natural. For the ladies reading this, let me say very quickly that this is not because all men want to suppress you or anything like that but I think that most men and especially good men out there simply want to have the means to take care of you and provide for you…because we tend to measure our self-worth by how well we can take care of you. Isn’t that great? Isn’t that a good thing? Read on…
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Joint V.S Separate accounts- The underlying relationship issues we are not talking about

Joint or Separate accounts? It’s the question many couples (Especially new ones) are trying to figure out. That topic can ruin an evening at the speed of light and for many, it’s a deal breaker for some before the relationship even starts. So what’s the deal with it?

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This is such a major issue that I have decided to finally write about  because I have gotten a lot of questions about it and I have seen quite a number of cases on the issue. More importantly, I hear/see a lot of content about the pros and cons, about what circumstances you may choose to have joint or separate accounts and so on, but I don’t hear or see much about the underlying issues that are at play. Read more

Not Another Relationship Event

I hate Relationship Events but I love The CONVO.

This is exactly how people who have ever been to The CONVO feel.
So whats The CONVO? It’s a Chic, interactive CoEd Relationship Event with a thematic mixer.

In my years of working with people on relationships, I have come to realize that many things need to change in the manner that critical information is presented to people today…especially Christian Young Adults who are looking for answers to their relationship and self-awareness questions. Read more

11 Reasons (you may not know) Why Single Christian Men Can’t Find Their Ruth, Esther or Mary

I recently wrote the “Women’s” version of this article and it resonated with a lot of people. I think that happened because the information was presented with fresh perspectives that struck a nerve.  If you haven’t read it yet, don’t be left out. Read it HERE: 9 reasons (you may not know) why Christian single ladies can’t find their Boaz, David or Joseph Young African man in contemplation -iStock_000006274190XSmall So here is the Men’s version. The flip side. Before I get into this though, I want to get a few things out of the way. Read more

9 reasons (you may not know) why Christian single ladies can’t find their Boaz, David or Joseph

I’ve gotten a lot of one-on-one questions about this from BOTH MEN AND WOMEN and I figured it was time to write about it. Before I write another line though, it’s important that I say a few things and get some things out of the way.

A. This article is mainly for mature Christian single women. Mature. Christian. Women. Why? Because Girls might get offended or not understand but a mature Christian woman will probably get it and take the knowledge.


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What married couples know now but wish they knew when they were single

Some couples are lucky to realize this before they get married.

Some people are even luckier to know this before they start dating.

Most however, don’t discover this until the cosmic dust settles after the honeymoon.  Read more