Category archive - Relationships

You Are a Good Person, But…

Have you ever met someone you liked…and maybe even started a relationship with, that had a “big but”? (Thank goodness I am spelling this out and not saying this. lol).
For real though. You meet this person and most things are good but they just have this area that just screams “red flag” on the inside. Or maybe you are in a relationship/marriage and you feel there is something not quite right about things even though this person is a really nice person… and you cant pinpoint what it is (or cant articulate it)
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After 5 Years of Marriage…We’ve Learned a Few Things

So Bukky and I celebrated our 5th year anniversary in December and we both got some time to reflect on what we have learned after 5 years.

These are some of the most important lessons and realizations that have come out…and are totally worth sharing:
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How Opposites Can Make it Work

You meet that person and sparks fly so hard you feel faint when you are with them.
They suck you outside your comfort zone so hard and so fast, your head spins. You KNOW what you’re doing is madness by your normal personality standards but your normal personality goes into hiding when you are with this person.

In fact, you KNOW you’re acting the fool.

You’re afraid of heights and there you are…going rock climbing.
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Seven (Seemingly-Unrelated) Things that Unconsciously Help You to be Good at Marriage

I am a huge (like HUUUGGGEEE) advocate for conscious intentional preparation for marriage and continuous improvement together when you enter it. However, there are some things that seem totally unrelated but can start to wire (or rewire) our mind for marriage. I love this list and you will too. You’ll probably say “Hmm never thought of that before” a couple of times.
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Why Marriages Are Not Happening Between Same-Church Members

Have you noticed? Men are shying away from pursuing women in their own church and women in their church don’t seem to be open to them anyway. Marriages are happening alright…just not very often between members of the same church.

But yea….the prophesies are out. The word has “come forth”. You have claimed it by faith that very soon, you will find the one and get married. Soooo…whats happening? Why does it seem to happen everywhere except your church and even if it is happening, why is it not happening as often as it should?

By the way, this is not about marriages not taking place at a “church location”. This is specifically about why marriages are not happening between members of that church.
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Online Dating – The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Swipe right and find love.
Yea…dating sites and apps are meant to make that process super easy.
The online dating industry rakes in about $2 Billion dollars a year in the US alone.

It is growing in revenue but also growing in questions about it.
Should I be meeting people online? Is it safe, physically? emotionally? Does it increase the chances of marriage or does it work against it? Can I truly meet someone special online? and for believers, how do I get confirmation? Where does God fit in this?
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