Category archive - Relationships

Why Marriages Are Not Happening Between Same-Church Members


Have you noticed? Men are shying away from pursuing women in their own church and women in their church don’t seem to be open to them anyway. Marriages are happening alright…just not very often between members of the same church.

But yea….the prophesies are out. The word has “come forth”. You have claimed it by faith that very soon, you will find the one and get married. Soooo…whats happening? Why does it seem to happen everywhere except your church and even if it is happening, why is it not happening as often as it should?

By the way, this is not about marriages not taking place at a “church location”. This is specifically about why marriages are not happening between members of that church.
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Online Dating – The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Swipe right and find love.
Yea…dating sites and apps are meant to make that process super easy.
The online dating industry rakes in about $2 Billion dollars a year in the US alone.

It is growing in revenue but also growing in questions about it.
Should I be meeting people online? Is it safe, physically? emotionally? Does it increase the chances of marriage or does it work against it? Can I truly meet someone special online? and for believers, how do I get confirmation? Where does God fit in this?
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When You Realize You are More to Blame for That Breakup Than You Thought


You were too busy playing victim during the break up to see this. You were enjoying the attention everyone was giving you as you told your version of the story. You were pointing the finger so much that you forgot the four that were pointing back at you.

Now… looking back, you realize it wasn’t all their fault. In fact, you are more to blame than you thought. You contributed to the breakup more than you thought.

What do you do? How do you think through this? Well, here are a few things that are sure to help you on your journey of growth
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The Pressure to Marry – An Open Letter

An open letter to the biological or self-appointed parents, uncles, aunties, friends, and pastors who pressure singles about marriage.

Disclaimer. This may be uncomfortable.


I am just a regular guy that just happens to interact A LOT with young adults and singles about life, faith, decisions and especially relationships. That’s why I am writing you: Their biological or self-appointed parents, uncles, aunties, friends, pastors and yes… even you who don’t “say” anything but still communicate “a lot” about your concern regarding why that single person needs to get married.
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Stop Praying For a Good Spouse. For Real. Here’s Why

Cork Proposal
Stop it.
Halt the prayers for a sec.
You’re probably thinking “Tooobbbiii…where in the world could this be going?”
Don’t worry…keep reading and I’ll tell you why you should stop praying…at least in the way you are doing it and in the state you are in. (Plus there is something at the end you have to see)

Now…Let’s have a SERIOUS conversation.
This is not going to be very comfortable..but I do it in love…so that the veil over your eyes will be lifted.
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What is the Minimum Connection You Should Feel Before Starting or Continuing a Relationship?

Dinner date illustration
So there you are…you are being approached by someone or you are approaching someone and you are asking yourself the ever-common question “What minimum connection must I feel with this person to be comfortable moving forward?”

This may sound like a simple question but some of the stories I have heard lately are just proof that matters of the heart can be complicated and things that should be plain to see could be very elusive. Read more